Quote “Don’t blame your problems on your sunglasses! That’s no different from tripping on the street and blaming the pebble! ” – Gintama

Stop and think for a moment: Who in your life is your friend?

To me, a friend is someone who….

1. …I can laugh and rant about anything and everything to and will still love me and will laugh/rant along with me!
2. …accepts me for what I am and I can accept them for what they are.
3. …I can spill my heart and soul out onto and I will know that they will help mend it and return it back to me when I am back to my senses.
4. …I can hang out with and not be worried about my physical appearance.
5. …will abolish the feeling of loneliness by being there for me even when I am “physically” alone. I can be sitting/walking alone or even with a crowd of acquaintances and not feel lonely because…I’m not!
6. …I ENJOY BEING AROUND.
7. …I can discuss my interest in yaoi with. TEHEHEHE
8. …feels the same way back at me!

Now, I know most people either ask too much of a person to be a friend or ask too little (heck, I’ve been through both). To me, this is what a friend IS NOT:

1. Despite what we see in the media, a friend IS NOT someone who you can call at 4:00AM (unless they are awake with you) when you are BORED or feeling LONELY. Unless you are experiencing an emotional breakdown of some sort or had some nightmare, FRIENDS still need their beauty sleep and a long day to live through, so BE CONSIDERATE and don’t expect them to be there for your EVERY LITTLE NEED. Don’t blur the role between boyfriend/girlfriend and FRIEND.
2. Someone who will hang out with you/talk to you all the time. Once again, don’t blur the role between boyfriend/girlfriend and FRIEND. Friends have their own lives, relationships (whether they are meaningful or not) with other people just like you do. They have school, work, times when they feel lazy/tired just like you. BE CONSIDERATE and don’t make them undergo guilt trips. (Now..if they are canceling EVERY SINGLE hangout/talktime with you for like months without a really good reason, then I suggest you reconsider the friendship).
3. Someone who does not treat you as their equal.
4. Backstabbers, obviously.
5. People who you don’t find yourself enjoying when with them. If you find yourself forcing yourself to like them, then they are not your friends.

Haha, yeah that is my basic list of what a friend is/is not. It’s just that I constantly see/hear about people stressing over really trivial relationships regarding friendship. Not to sound cliche, but life is a journey of breaking and creating relationships. When a relationship is broken, the first feeling is sadness (naturally). Crying, ranting, etc about a broken relationship is a good sign in a sense. When your emotions get pullled to the negative extreme when a relationship is severed, it shows how important the relationship was to you (and that you are human and have emotions :B).

But once a relationship is severed and your grief is over, you must realize that you have gained some valuable experience from it. Whether it is that you are too nice of a person, you’re too cold of a person, whatever, you’ll realize it after the relationship is over and hopefully use the experience and change into a better person and not make the same mistakes again. And above all if the relationship ended because of a betrayal of the other person, BE HAPPY THAT THEY HAVE FINALLY SHOWN YOU THEIR TRUE FACE. Be happy that they have showed you how insignificant you are in comparison to the other things/people in their life. Be happy that they betrayed you and you are not longer deceived by that fake smile on their face. Be happy that you will no longer waste your feelings/time/etc on an insignificant person. With this in mind, you can move on. (and plus, caring about these people take too much work…hehe)

P.S: It’s Spring Break for me, so hurrah! An update within a week ;D (ew I have 3tests when I go back to school -_-)